I almost gave up on my dream.
Since my first child was born, I’ve dreamed of giving our children the gift of a wild and free childhood where they could just enjoy being kids. Specifically, I wanted to share this with them by living in the country, and ideally on a lake (which has been my own life-long dream).
I gave myself the deadline of my son’s 12th birthday.
So, last spring when my son was about to turn 12, it hit me that we hadn’t been able to make this happen for our kids. This is what I had wanted for them more than anything in the world next to health and love – and I had failed.
I felt like a failure as a mother and a woman.
I felt the shame and guilt and sadness of not being able to get our s#$% together in time to create a rural life for us to enjoy during their fleeting youth. And yes, they’re having a great childhood and yes we’re good parents, but this was one of those big lifetime goals that would never happen – the big dream that I’d have to give up.
I set aside my regrets, and carried on with life and doing the best I could. . .
. . . until the day came a few months after my son turned 12. It was just an ordinary day with an extraordinary moment of following my intuition which led to turning our life upside down (in a great way) to finally be living our dream on a lake!
And now having made that huge leap of faith, it seems that dreams big and small are coming true on a weekly basis. Like right now, as I write to you while drinking tea by the fire with the sun coming up over the lake.
Which has led me to wonder – What took me so long?!
Now that I’ve been on a role of consistently making dreams a reality over the past few years, I intend to support you in making your dreams reality too.
And when I talk about dreams, I mean . . . your daydreams, desires, wishes, ideas, goals, intentions, wants, hopes . . . or whatever word you use to describe your dreams.
Because I finally understand we are meant to live our lives as ourselves, pursuing what matters most to each of us.
So today I want to share a dozen things I wish I knew about dreaming 12 years ago.
If I had it to do again, I would . . .
- Understand that dreams don’t have to stay a fantasy that may happen “one day” according to chance, but instead can become my reality with clarity, faith and action.
- Really and truly take my dreaming and dream-practice seriously by making it a regular priority because it works.
- Have a greater vision for myself, avoiding keeping my dreams “small”, “realistic” and “safe”, because I can’t possibly know that I’m capable (or incapable) of achieving in the future.
- Have more fun and audacious wishes and not take myself and my future so seriously.
- Step out of my comfort zone and work with my fears, objections and limiting beliefs about my dreams, how they’ll happen and their outcomes.
- Conceive dreams grounded in who I am, rather than based on anyone else’s ideas or expectations (including what society dictates that I should be, do or have).
- Share my ideas with a few trusted and encouraging friends, and receive their support in helping me go for it – and I would do the same for them.
- Know what my dreams are in the first place and keep this clarity by writing them out, envisioning them, studying and sharing them.
- Revisit my dreams regularly, to remember which ones are priorities and which ones I’m ready to release.
- Follow my spark – my intutition, my gut, that little nudge that tells me what to do (no matter how random it may seem) as I can always trust it.
- Protect my ember of hope and keep fanning its’ flames until it becomes a roaring fire, shining for myself and others.
- Repeat all of the above together with my husband and kids so that we individually and collectively enjoy our dreams!
These are just a few of my many insights, and I have much more to share which is why I’m busy creating a new dream-themed resource for you.
Don’t quit your daydream.