Post ID 688

Posted by on June 21, 2019

How’d you get on last week with identifying your self-care needs and putting them into practice?

If you did it, awesome! Keep it up. If you didn’t, no worries. Today’s email is for you.

As much as we may want – or love – to nurture our self-care needs, we often feel RESISTANCE which keeps us from moving ahead. Today, let’s sort out what’s really going on.

First, it helps to know what’s up with resistance. When you feel stuck, and can’t seem to move forward with something, it can mean one of two things: either what you’re engaged in (or want to be engaged in) isn’t truly meeting your needs or you’re involved in something that does meet your needs, but clashes with your internal beliefs or self-concepts.

Think of something you’re resisting regarding self-care, and ask yourself:  Would this truly meet my needs? If no, move on to something that would. If yes, keep reading . . .

The next consideration is to discover what is causing your resistance. Again, there are two possibilities: your blocks may come from outside of you or from within you.

Outside resistance includes the practical, legitimate, concrete reasons that you cannot move forward. If you’re facing this type of resistance, chances are that you already know the work-around and are simply waiting for certain pieces to ‘fall into place’ before you can get on with it. Or maybe you don’t know the specific ‘how tos’ to accomplish what you want, but you do know that you can reach out to someone who can help you strategize your way forward. As per Pareto’s 80/20 Principle, this may be the cause of your resistance about 20% of the time.

The other 80% of the time, you’re likely facing resistance from within yourself. This is the trickier of the two to navigate, because you’re often not even aware that you are the source of the obstacle – that your mindset is the true block. Which of these inner resistance thoughts can you relate to, as inspired by Hannah Braime’s book “From Coping to Thriving”?

Top 7 Reasons for Inner Self-Care Resistance

1) “I don’t have the time.” Yes, we all have a million things to do. Which of those things matter most to you? And how would you be better able to tend to the other things if you were energized, motivated and full up from self-care? Prioritizing what you value most can be tricky to master, but once you have there’s no going back. Also, on your journey to clearing more space for yourself in your day, remember that some of the most effective practices take only moments, like breathing, looking at a beautiful view and envisioning a happy memory.

2) “I can’t afford it.” If money barriers are lurking, this is surely a mindset issue, as we all rationally know that self-care doesn’t have to cost a dime. Since many people equate their financial worth with their personal worth, it follows that such people may only invest in their self-care, financially or otherwise, when they feel worthy. If this sounds like you, I want to tell you that you are worthy and you do deserve self-care.

3) “Self-care wasn’t a thing for me growing up.” As with many of our unconscious beliefs, we may have received overt or underlying messages about self-care from our parents and authority figures in our formative years. However well-intentioned your guardians were or were not, and whether they deemed self-care acceptable or unacceptable, you may still carry their outdated self-care beliefs which need refreshing as they are no longer serving you.

4) “Society frowns upon it.” Additionally, we’re taught so much by our community, culture, religion, media and society, and not all of what we learn through this societal conditioning serves our highest good. For example, many women have internalized that we must be caregivers and put others needs before our own, or that we must not express our ‘negative’ emotions. We fear rejection if we don’t follow through with these ‘norms’. The truth is, as a human you are meant to love others without being a martyr and honour ALL of your emotional needs.

5) “It’s just another thing I ‘should’ be doing.” Thanks to social obligation as mentioned above, not meeting our ‘shoulds’, ‘need tos’ and ‘musts’ leads to resistance. The more obliged we feel about doing something – and the more accompanying self-judgement it brings – the more we will resist. If we are ashamed of some aspect of self-care, we will avoid it at all costs to also avoid experiencing the dreaded feelings of shame. The best way to suck all of the fun and value out of your self-care is to do it because you ‘should’, instead of because you ‘choose to’, ‘want to’ and ‘love’ to engage.

6) “I wish someone else would take care of me.” The more we yearn for someone to come and ‘save us’ by meeting our unmet needs, the longer we stay stuck. This also manifests as wanting to meet our needs without having to express, assert and negotiate how to meet them with others. If you can relate, I lovingly share that living your best life begins with taking responsibility for yourself, including meeting your own unmet needs.

7) “I don’t deserve it.” Self-care is a matter of health-care, not a question of whether or not we have earned it. You have the unconditional right and responsibility to take great care of yourself. The real question is how would you love to tend to your emotional, mental, spiritual and physical need? Understanding self-care as an essential priority in your life will help you ditch the guilt and see it as a necessary part of being alive.

Okay, now breathe.

That was a lot. You don’t have to get all entangled by the details of these barriers if they’re all too much. Simply pick one to explore, or if you prefer just take away the simple message that you deserve to take great care of you. And return to those fundamental questions:

What do I really need? What could I do today to get one step closer to meeting that need?

Yours in self-care,

Nicole

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Posted in: Dreams, Empowerment, Mind

Post ID 567

Posted by on January 31, 2018

Are your heart’s desires calling to you . . . but you’re not sure where to start?

Are you committed to creating space for your dreams . . . but your inner resistance limits you?

Are you lit up and wholeheartedly pursuing your desires . . . but you’d welcome some support along the way?

What if you had the wisdom of a collection of revolutionary women who are experts in the business of helping others pursue and persevere through to their dreams?

Well you do, because I’ve created a beautiful new eBook that stands for you and your dreams!

“Your Brilliant Year: Take the Leap and Launch Your Dreams for a Freedom-Filled 2018!” is ready today! Download your copy here!

Give yourself the gift of downloading this eBook, so you can pursue and enjoy what matter most to you, for the fulfillment, fun and freedom that you truly desire.

Along with 21 empowering colleagues, I’ve shared my best perspectives and practices on: making the leap and taking action toward your dreams; and staying committed and persevering when facing inevitable obstacles along the way.

Some of the themes we uncover include how to . . .

  • Keep your vision clear and close to your heart;
  • Embrace your differences;
  • Beware of “busy” energy as a disguise for resistance;
  • Remember you are not your thoughts;
  • Find someone who’s not afraid to challenge you;
  • Put yourself out there and try new things;
  • Answer the call of your spirit;
  • Realize that the next opportunity is just around the corner;
  • Take action for clarity, confidence and momentum;
  • Give yourself permission to have “learning wins”;
  • Embody the energy of being in the state of achieving what you want;
  • Know your success is who you become – no matter what happens!

This eBook holds the kind of wisdom that you can put into practice right away, and that you’ll return to as a trusted resource for years to come.

The time to move from dreaming to doing is now.

The support and strategy to see your goals and intentions through to completion is at your finger tips.

Join women around the world who are making space for what they value most – including themselves and their dreams!

To your greatest dreams and beyond!
Nicole

P.S. Who is the woman in your life whose dreams you want to stand for? Invite with her to claim her own eBook today, at www.nicolemoorey.ca/your-brilliant-year/, so that she can enjoy a brilliant year too!

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Post ID 575

Posted by on January 19, 2018

“It’s so much fun to dream!” Penny Norkett

Ready to end the week on a FUN note?

Do you prefer a big-picture vision over detailed plans? Are you a hands-on or creative type? Do you like to leave a little room for magic in your plans?

If yes, then you’ll love this talk with my friend and colleague Penny Norkett. She’s inspiring all of us with her 3 fun and effective activities that you can try this weekend to realize your dreams  – faster and with more fun!

CHECK OUT OUR VIDEO HERE!

To connect with Penny Norkett, Visibility and Empowerment Coach, visit her . . .

Now get out there and have some fun claiming your intentions this weekend!
Nicole

P.S. Want help getting clear on your intentions? Book a Clarity Call or email me so that I can help you get clear on your next steps. I can’t wait to hear more about your dreams!

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