Post ID 656

Posted by on February 22, 2019

“Knowing how you actually want to feel is the most potent form of clarity you can have.”
Danielle LaPorte

 

Today is one of my favourite stops along the “Nurture Trail”. Throughout the month I’ve been sharing various ways to show yourself more love and today I have some thoughts for you on nurturing your feelings and emotions.

Maximizing my emotional wellness has been the most powerful skill I’ve learned to live my most healthy and fulfilling life. Since discovering these elusive life lessons, I’ve wanted everyone to know about the direct connection between our emotions and creating lives we love. In fact, that’s why I started my coaching business in the first place – to “share the love” so to speak.

Emotional empowerment allows you to release any lingering emotional baggage from your past, healthily process your feelings in the moment,choose your desired emotional experiences in your life and even leverage your emotions to create the life you most desire. 

There’s so much to share about nurturing your feelings and emotions, but for today I’ll let you in on how I use my feelings to make the most of – and be more present in – my day.

Feelings First

This morning practice takes mere minutes, but will have a hugely positive impact on how you experience your entire day.

1) Take a few quiet moments in the morning to check in with yourself about your emotional needs. Even just closing your eyes, taking a few deep breaths and guiding your attention from your head down into your heart will do. Once you’re connected to your true inner self, ask yourself “How do I want to feel today?” and see what answers naturally arise.

If you need a little inspiration, check out this feelings list for ideas: abundance, adventure, appreciation, balance, bravery, calm, celebration, confidence, creativity, delight, devotion, ease, encouragement, energized, feminine, focused, free, glad, grace, grateful, healthy, held, important, interested, joyous, limitless, love, magic, momentum, nourished, open, passionate, peaceful, playful, powerful, quiet, refreshed, secure, seen, sensuous, spontaneous, thrilled, treasured, unique, vivacious, vital, warm, whole, wondrous.

2) Write down your top 3 words. Keep them top of mind through your day, perhaps by writing them on sticky notes and posting them where you’ll see them or by noting them in your daily agenda.

3) When faced with a decision about how to spend your day, check in with your 3 words and use them as a filter to guide your choices. Whenever possible, choose actions that align with your words. When that’s not fully possible, at least incorporate some element of your desired feelings to make the experience more of a win-win situation. If you’re a scheduler, take some time to adjust your to-dos of the day to reflect your desired feelings and also to schedule in some self-care time specifically devoted to nurturing your desired feelings.

For example, today I wish to feel: comfortable, content and accomplished. Informally, I’ll check in with myself throughout the day to see if I’m feeling those things and will adapt my environment, activities or mindset to better experience those feelings. More formally, I’ll plan my day’s schedule so that my work, home and self-care activities allow for these feelings.

So, how do you want to feel today?

Favourite Tip

Any time you haven’t identified your desired feelings, or don’t really know how you want to feel, you can use “Love” as your desired emotion. When deciding how to be or what to do in a day, ask yourself “What would Love have me do?” This may be my most favourite question (if having a favourite question was a thing :). This prompt  ensures you’re prioritizing love for yourself and others. You also may discover that the most loving thing is often not the easiest thing to do, but is the “right” thing.

Using this practice day after day will ensure you’re designing (and living) a life aligned with what feels the best – and matters most – to you.

This is what I would “Love” for you.

xo
Nicole

P.S. I’m fascinated with using essential oils as a natural tool for enhancing emotional wellness. Thus, I’M EXCITED TO ANNOUNCE my new newsletter “Natural Essentials”, where you will receive bi-monthly emails on:

  • Simple and practical tips to enhance your family’s wellness;
  • Features on oils to learn their physical and emotional benefits;
  • Do-It-Yourself ideas to make the most of oils;
  • Q & As for your continuing education at a gentle pace;
  • Updates on special offers and promotions; and of course
  • Opportunities to purchase oils if you desire.

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Post ID 559

Posted by on February 23, 2018

I was recently honoured to be a featured speaker at a One Woman Fearless Summit (learn more about this incredible social enterprise below).

It was a wonderful opportunity for me, with so many lessons reaffirmed: the power of pushing through my fears and stretching outside of my comfort zone; the essential roles others play in supporting and celebrating my dreams; the power of stories to heal and inspire change; and the difference that one woman can make in the world simply by being herself and sharing herself and her gifts.

Most importantly, I was thrilled to share my message about emotional empowerment and specifically how to leverage Fear (and ALL of your emotions) for inner power and outer progress toward your dreams. 

Today I want to share the first tip that I gave in my talk, and probably the top tip I have to share overall when it comes to emotional wellness . . .

The only way around your emotions is through them.

When it comes to dealing with our emotions, most of us want to skip this part and get on with the good stuff of making plans and taking action. We flee, freeze, faint, fidget or fight our emotions – instead of just feeling them – so they get stuck in us. We drag them around, like an emotional backpack with our unprocessed emotions busting out of the pockets and pouches. The only way to keep from dragging around this emotional baggage for the rest of our lives is to face our emotions.  We can’t just skip over the “negative” feelings, trying only to focus on the “positive” ones.

What we want to do is to fully experience our feelings – including the thoughts and beliefs attached.  And I’ve created a simple (and very original :)) acronym that describes exactly how to do this so that you can deal with your present emotions, and any that you may be hauling around from the past, to then be free to get on with the really good stuff.

F – Feel Your Emotions:
Experience your feelings fully. You can talk to trusted friends or journal to get the stories and emotions out of you. You can move your body to help release emotions or tensions. You can express yourself creatively, through music, art or craft to process emotions in a powerful subconscious way. And you can cry or laugh, as there’s healing power in allowing your emotions to flow.

E – Explore the Messages:
To decode the general messages of your emotions, from a non-judgemental place of curiosity, ask your emotions questions like: “What are you trying to tell me? Where did you come from? How long have you been with me? What have I learned about what it means to feel you?”

You can also decode specific messages of your feelings, as each feeling is uniquely designed to show you the way through. For instance, sadness shows us how to grieve lost potential. Fear shows us what we want and what action to take. Anger tells us boundaries have been crossed. Courage signals that our True Self is coming to light. And joy celebrates the awe and delight of life.

E – Embrace the Messages:
Now that you’ve heard what your emotions are trying to tell you, take action on what you’ve learned.  So if your shame or anger have shown you that your boundaries are being crossed, what’s the one next step you can take to reinforce your boundaries? Or if your desires have come to light, what’s the next step you can take to make them happen? By acting on what you’ve learned, not only do you move through the emotion but you lessen the chance of the problem arising again in the future.

L – Let it Be:
The truth is, we’re not actually trying to be rid of any of our feelings. We don’t have to block them, change them, avoid them or even let them go. We just want to let them do the job their designed to do, and then set them aside for future reference. For example, we wouldn’t want to be fear-less, as fear plays an essential role in our lives, but maybe we want to learn what fear has to share, then set it aside until we need to consult with it again.

So the next time you experience a heavy emotion, try to F.E.E.L. it. Because the only way around it is through it.

Or better yet, talk with me on my free Clarity Call so that you can get clear on how you want to feel, what emotional blocks may be keeping you from your dreams and what your next best steps are to proceed. Book a call here or reply to this email to arrange an alternate time.

To FEELing forward!
Nicole

P.S. One Woman is a global social enterprise on a mission to help women and girls around the globe live their dreams and reach their full potential through education and entrepreneurship. As a proud business member of this organization, my contribution supports projects around the world that will help women become entrepreneurs, have access to education or create a better quality of life. When women around the world are united, we will make a difference, one woman at a time.

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